You’ve got your eyes on one particular girl, and you don’t have the guts to ask her out.
You’ve thought about the tough guy approach (even if you are the farthest thing from a tough guy!), and you’ve thought about the friend approach — and now you’re left scratching your head wondering what you can do to be attractive by making a girl laugh.
How in the world will you get the girl of your dreams to find you attractive?! Don’t worry; there is a tried-and-true method which some guys use, and others need to use.
We’ve all heard it; numerous studies have proven it… tickle her funny bone! No, I don’t mean to literally tickle her (although you can try if you wish); I’m talking about making her laugh!
Just about every girl loves a funny guy! And, those that don’t are probably lacking the humor gene, just saying!
Think about it, how many of your buddies have ended up dating a girl because he made her laugh? Now it’s your turn! It’s time to move past the dreaded friend zone into the dating zone!
The Basics
It’s important to remember that before you even attempt to date a girl by making her laugh, you need to learn how to use humor and wit that will not repulse her! Learning how to be funny takes time and practice. Yes, practice!
Don’t EVER use pick up lines that can have her running for the door before you even get to introduce yourself! For example, never, ever say something like “Is your dad a baker? No, why? Because, you have nice buns!”
A line like this is NOT funny, and will NOT make you attractive! Ok, so you may snicker about it with pals, but it won’t land you a date! (By the way, there is always a flip side to things…Martin Merril from makewomenlaugh.com says that one of the neatest most effective way to get a girl to laugh is using lame jokes and spinning them around correctly…yes, it’s more art than science and you got to learn how to do it but WELL worth it).
Being funny is hard work, and even harder to master! But, the good news is, once you have mastered this skill, you will find your attractive meter has increased dramatically!
Learning how to make a girl laugh not only increases your chances that you will be spending EVERY weekend (heck, maybe even week nights) on a date, but it also makes you the popular guy that everyone loves to love. Think Jim Carrey, Adam Sandler and Hugh Grant.
What do all these men have in common? They are all extremelytalented men with their own sense of humor.
Let’s face it,none of the men mentioned have ever had a hard time dating a girl!
Always Look at the Bright Side!
The first step is to look at EVERYTHING from the bright side. Everything in life can be funny, even those things that don’t seem so funny can be twisted into a humorous conversation.
Think about how comedians make their living.
Perhaps you were walking to work today, and spilled hot coffee all over your shirt. Is this funny when it happens? No! But, you can use this situation, and make it funny!
“Wow, you wouldn’t believe what happened to me! I was walking to work, not paying attention, and before I knew it, I had hot coffee all over my shirt! There was no time to change my shirt, so I had to work all day like that! Oh the looks I received from my co-workers!”
A line similar to this breaks the ice, and gets the girl laughing!
Try to make everything funny in one way or another! Practice this step, but while you do, remember it’s not just about how you say it, but how behave while you are saying it.
If you are having a hard time with this, rent a few DVD’s, and watch standup comedians. Learning from the pro’s can never hurt. Pay attention to their body language when they tell the audience a joke. Take notes if you need too!
It Works!
You may be wondering — how does being funny make girls want to date me or better yet, make me become attractive to girls. Think about it for a minute.
When you approach a girl (especially one you want to ask out on a date) the tension starts to build.
Most of the time, girls are on guard when a guy approaches them — wondering what pick up line you are going to use on her that she hasn’t already heard. Don’t be this guy!
Instead, you should immediately reveal your funny side. Why? Because revealing your funny side instantlyeases the tension, and makes a girl laugh, working in your favor. How?
As soon as you make a girl laugh, she immediately warms up to you, and loses all preconceived thoughts. You have become someone she enjoys talking to without holding back.
Congratulations, you just made yourself human to her!
Say Goodbye to Bad Boy Charm!
As soon as you break the ice and start the introductions, lose the bad boy charm! There is no need to try to be a show off – in fact; you may risk losing everything you worked so hard to get. Instead, this is the point where you need to be the nice, funny guy.
Start the conversation about something you have in common – the party you are at, the restaurant, etc., then move on to a funny incident that involves yourself looking like a fool.
“Wow, there are a lot of people here tonight. Do you know all these people? Hey, did I tell you about the time I spilled coffee on my shirt, and worked like that ALL day long?”
Studies have shown that girls enjoylistening to a guy who admits he made a stupid mistake. Be the funny guy!
Girls assume that guys want to dominate, and instantly put up barriers, walls, brick, you name it. Avoid this by allowing her to feel as if she dominates the conversation when you share your funny incident.
Perhaps, start your conversion with something like…”Every time I try to talk to a girl, I find that I get tongue-tied. I never know what to say, and then I end up looking like a fool. Hey, wait a minute… I am doing it again, aren’t I?
Never Make Yourself Look Completely Foolish!
While it’s ok to make yourself look like fool from time to time, it’s not ok to rely on it. Relying on it gives her a chance to walk all over you. Don’t ever allow anyone that opportunity, not even the girl you want to date!
It’s important to make fun of ONLY your good side, never your bad side. Making fun of your bad side (and revealing something that you truly lack) only makes you look like you have no ego or self respect. It’s important to let her know you care about yourself.
After all, we have all heard the saying “if a person can’t love himself, then how can he love others.” Girls remember this!
Avoid the Friend Zone!
As you two start talking, the girl may either think of you as her new guy-friend, or things could start heating up and you could be heading towards the dating zone!
Never, ever let the conversation enter the friend zone! Doing this only works against EVERYTHING you are working towards –being attractive to girls, not becoming best friends stuck in the friend zone with no chance of ever entering the dating zone!
While you two are speaking, make it obvious and clear that you are attracted to her, and would like to get to know her better.
Be a Man!
Now that you have made yourself appear to be a funny, charming man; it’s time to turn on the charm a little bit, and be a man that makes her feel protected when you are around.
Remember that you need to make her feel cared for, and gently reminded that you are the man who can, and will make her feel safe.
There is no need to be cocky, or to start a fight with another man; instead, concentrate on treating her like a lady, and being a complete gentleman when she is around.
If you want to be attractive by making girls laugh, you need to use humor, warm up to them and let them know you are interested in being more than friends.
Always remember to avoid the dreaded friend zone!
You need to be the man she feels protected and safe around!
Girls love a man who is charming and funny. But, more than that; if you havefollowed the steps in this article, you have already shown her that you have a lot of charm and humor in you and that you can protect her and keep her safe. Touchdown!
There are a Few Key Points to Remember
- Avoid the friend zone.
- Learning to be funny takes time and practice.
- Find everyday life humorous.
- Watch stand up comedians.
- Goodbye bad boy!
- NEVER make fun of your bad points!
- Girls want to feel protected and safe.
- Tell her your intentions.
The next time you see a girl you want to ask out on a date, remember that girls love guys who can make them laugh, are clever, witty and charming, all while being chivalrous and protective.
If you can master these skills, there is little a girl can do to prevent herself from falling head over heels in love with you, and bragging about the amazing new guy in her life!
And by the way, don’t forget to grab a copy of Martin’s strategy packed (and VERY fun to read!) eBook at makewomenlaugh.com.
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They aren’t QUITE as ELUSIVE as they can seem!
Nikki is single, she appears to be available and she is fine fine super fine!
…As she so daintily sips her Daiquiri.
She and Ken accidently brushed shoulders earlier.
They both smiled and cordially apologized.
She even gently gave his arm a squeeze.
She pleasantly said with a cute giggle,
“Oh! … I’m sorry. I wasn’t watching where I was going.”
He acknowledged in kind and they went their separate ways.
In a few minutes Ken saunters over with his best Clooney and asks her to dance…
…Only to be rejected!
Politely, mind you, but denied, none the less.
Two songs later, Nikki’s out on the dance floor with someone else!
Now? All of a sudden? She fits the profile of any number of derogatory nick names?
I mean, Geez Ken, at least she could’ve told you she had a boyfriend!
And look at that guy! He’s not all that…
And guess what, he’s not her boyfriend either!
Not YET anyway!
Every woman has the right to pick and choose who she wishes to be with…
…All according to her personal tastes and preferences!
So, why not Ken?
Why would she decline Ken’s offer, and then accept someone else’s?
Ken is taller and arguably more handsome, to include his physique!
Even his clothes say, “Sharp”!
‘Mr. Else’…remember? His first name is ‘Someone’… had also encountered her earlier! And he too had recognized her fine qualities!
The difference between Ken and Mr. Else was that Ken, who initially had a pretty good chance, began making suggestive gestures for his buddies when he thought she wasn’t watching!
BUSTED and UNTRUSTED! Leaving her, DISGUSTED!
She actually was interested! Ken got busted because she just happened to be checking out his butt as he started his ‘shenanigans’…doing his “I’ve GOT this” charades!
So, instead, she saw right through him AND she didn’t find the disrespect amusing!
Ouch!
Mr. Else, on the other hand, realized that she was somewhat refined and from all appearances,
A ‘Lady’ expecting to be treated as such!
Later, if and, “When we get behind closed doors”, she may well be a tigress!
But for now, by her poise and demeanor, she is a ‘Lady’!
During his brief encounter with her, Mr. Else smiled, then casually and respectfully complimented her necklace and went on his way.
Both men had ‘planted a seed’.
Ever heard,
“You reap what you sow?”
All women are different…in ‘some’ ways.
Consider this:
Have you accidentally or otherwise overheard several women talking about some guy?
“Oh! And THEN you know what he did?”
“No! Do tell!”
“Right when I was just about to…you know…he had the audacity to;
“Shhhhhh, they’re listening!”
“<pssst pssst pssst>”
“No WAY! You are kidding me!”
The third woman ponders, “Hmmm, he did?…mmm.”… As she *very subtly repositions.
(*Body language…learn to read it. It can sneak right by you in the blink of an eye!)
Woman #3? She might even engage in a conversation about the size of cucumbers on the produce isle if you use the right approach and catch her in the right mood!
“Trying to make the right impression on a woman with the wrong approach is like trying to start your car with your house key!”
Though, women share some general similarities with regards to likes and dislikes,
There are certain things that a woman looks for in a man that she uses to determine whether he is someone she is attracted to.
To some, it may go no further than his physical characteristics.
No man is all things to every woman.
A cold hard factor that also comes into play is a phenomenon called natural selection.
Aside from being similar in concept to the familiar term “survival of the fittest”, natural selection, as it pertains to this topic, strongly influences the instincts of desire.
While outward appearances are certainly involved in deciding who we find physically attractive, beauty and handsomeness are not the only factors.
“Beauty is only skin deep”? Sure…that cliché didn’t just appear out of nowhere!
As in the episode with Ken and Mr. Else, Mr. Else was obviously not a bad looking guy…he was acceptable to Nikki.
In fact, put Ken and Mr. Self on a stage in front of a panel of female judges and Ken would likely win hands down if it was a Mr. Buff Guy of the Week contest;
But when it comes to overall attractiveness…
…It’s less about the looks and more about the man!
Women like what they like!
But…do we take everything she says too literally?
“That girl loves chocolate! She said so herself!”
Try taking her to Peterbrooke for dinner a few times a week!
Then see how long before,
A) She no longer accepts your invitation to dinner!
or
B) She no longer fits in your Miata!
With roles reversed, I experienced a similar situation!
“I hope you like my lasagna…I even used Portabella mushrooms!”
“Oh!… I love it! And Portabellas?…They’re my favorite!”
“I know! I’ve heard you mention that!”
Within a month’s time, I would wake up in cold sweats from nightmares about being tied down while she shoved hands full of Portabella mushrooms in my mouth!
They are no longer my favorite!
So what does she want?
According to Men’s Health Magazine;
The number one character trait that women find desirable and should be reflected in a man’s persona if he is to successfully meet and engage a woman,
Is… CONFIDENCE.
Confidence, includes self respect, self esteem and an overall feeling of comfort within one’s own skin.
And it shows!
Confidence is not to be confused with, arrogance and/or being overbearing!
A confident man smiles easily, not like “Smiling Bob” from the male enhancement ads, but comfortably.
False Vibrato is not a trait of a truly confident man.
He laughs appropriately, is considerate and consistent …he never breaks stride…
To elaborate briefly on ‘consistent’;
Let’s don’t confuse consistent with predictable!
‘Consistently unpredictable’, however, can be an interesting trait…
IF it isn’t overplayed! Think about it.
Finally, on ‘confidence’, ol’ rugged Jack Palance said it best in an Aqua Velva commercial;
He slapped the After Shave onto his leathery face, then, using just his disarming smile and merely three words, he said it all,
“Ain’t confidence sexy?”
There are other character traits women find appealing that tend to go hand in hand with confidence such as:
- Sincerity
- Kindness
- Understanding (to include fairness)
- Strength
- Conviction
- Commitment
- Respectfulness
- And last but certainly not least, experience!
He knows how and how not to treat a woman!
A confident man who conveys those traits through his persona and his actions…
…Is what many, if not most women consider a great catch!
The overall characteristics which comprise such a fellow, are well described in a song by Trisha Yearwood titled,
“That’s what I like about you!”
Check it out sometime! It’s a rockin’ country song!
She just wants a good and SEXY man!
As for a ‘sexy’ man? A sexy man is a man who makes her feel sexy in what ever way works best for her!
Jack Sparrow or Jason Bourne?
Tommy Lee Jones or Harrison Ford?
Sam Elliot or Mel Brookes?
I’ve asked around! The ‘rugged’ and the ‘handsome’ are neck & neck!
So, just looking for MS. RIGHT NOW?
…Or, Mrs. Right For Ever & Ever til….?
I couldn’t take it any longer!
LORD I was crazed!
When this feelin’ came upon me like a Tidal Wave!
I started swearin’ to my God and on my mother’s grave,
I would love you til the end of time!
I swore, I would love you til the end of time!
So now I’m praying for the end of time!
To hurry up and arrive!
…etc.
Careful what you wish for!
If there are any ‘magic’ words that are sure-fired, stone cold guaranteed to make every woman who hears them succumb to a man’s every desire…
I’d like to know what they are!
Wouldn’t you?
The fact is…I don’t know if any such words even exist…in fact, I have serious doubts!
So instead, let’s take a step at time!
Our operative word here is…
FINESSE!
In some settings, though still dependent upon the woman you spring this on;
… “Hey Baby…guess what I’ve got in my pocket and you can have a bite!”
…might actually get a rise out of an occasional woman…say…
…“Woman #3” (from above)?
On the other extreme, the “tingle” you might stimulate, could be that tingle in the,
Palm of her hand! (But then again, if she’s a slapper, hey…who knows!)
According to Dictionary.com…
Finesse is described as “Extreme delicacy” and “Skill in handling sensitive situations”
“Subtle action”, discriminating, tasteful, strategic, artful…
Finesse is not a strong suit for the typical bull in a China Shop!
Tact applies, as well.
For our purposes, while finessing includes ‘going with her flow’, it equally, means creating a flow of your own which she will willingly, preferably gladly follow!
Think about this:
Did you invite her into your realm, or did you invite yourself into hers?
YES!
But then “who’s zoomin’ whom” here?”
Ever heard?…
“Either lead or follow or get out of the way!”
May I suggest lead…when possible?
As long as you lead confidently and with finesse, she will follow.
If she begins to fall behind, you’re leading her in the wrong direction!
Go back to where she was and hopefully figure out where you took a wrong turn.
…and Quickly!
Hint: ‘No’ doesn’t always mean no…the first time.
Sometimes it just means;
“Not Yet!” or “Not right now!”
And at times, just a little gentle coaxing is all it takes to figure out it’s really NO!
“Oh my GOD! I’m not riding that ride!”
Is she just ‘being a girl’ or does she mean…I AM NOT RIDING THAT!
“Aw come on!” with a gentle tug in the direction of the ride entrance.
“Nope, she ain’t ridin’ it…and that is final!”
About those strategic ‘Magic’ words…
I approach this topic with extreme care not to suggest any under-handed gimmicks, but the truth is, in some cases, it seems we just can’t resist the temptation to;
“Test the waters!”
Okay, by now, she seems accepting, and the situation seems comfortable…
…She’s following, or at least allowing you to lead!
You make the call…do you drop a suggestive innuendo?
“Yeah! Speaking of the hot summer weather, how’s your ‘temperature’ about now?”
“Feelin’…HOT?”
“Guh dunk, guh dunk, guh dunk…snort!”
An ill-placed or poorly timed or tackily suggestive ‘innuendo’ can be an instant:
Deal Breaker!
IF and only if, you feel the time and the climate seem appropriate,
There are tactfully subtle phrases that you can likely get away with which may or may or not trigger a response…
Just as an example…
As innocently as is humanly possible…no smirks, no highbrow…
…Absolutely NOTHING to indicate anything beyond face value…
“Whew, it is really ‘packed deep and tight’ up in here tonight!”
“Wanna get some fresh air?”
Body language! Watch for it!
If there is even the slightest chance that she ‘got it’ she will let you know…silently.
At Asylum.com there is a much more in depth study of female body language entitled:
“A Guide to Reading Body Language”
The high points for this scenario include:
She may look away and blink to unsuccessfully hide her rolling eyes,
In which case…DROP IT! And remember, you didn’t mean anything!
She’s reading you, too! …And, she obviously misses nothing!
But that’s not necessarily a bad thing…she’s paying attention!
If she looks down and messes with her hair and maybe even exposes her neck that displays a coy vulnerability. ‘Submissiveness’.
She thinks and maybe even hopes she knows what you meant!
But, she’s not really sure because you played it so well!
Nothing readable…yet?
What? You missed when she smiled seductively and nearly squirmed out of her chair?
Yeah, I missed that too!
If she agrees to go outside for a breath of air, you’re likely off the hook…safe!
It is case by case!
She may just come back with an equally provocative innuendo and;
Blow your mind!
If she makes any friendly physical contact en route to the great outdoors, she shows signs of wanting to be in your space!
If she responds favorably to any contact you may subtly offer, that’s a great buying sign!
She’s okay with you in her space!
Yes sir!
But still, did she get it? At this point…it doesn’t really matter!
Things seem to be moving forward nicely!
A comedian from the 1940’s, Woody Woodberry, proposed a toast!
“I finally met the perfect girl, no man could ask for more?”
“She’s deaf and dumb and over-sexed…and owns a liquor store!”
CHEERS! …and happy hunting!
P.S. It’s fun learning new ways to interact with woman and UNDERSTAND them (as much as possible at least!). As guys, most of the time we PRETEND we know what they want and how they think. W-R-O-N-G. But you know that already don’t you! I personally love hearing it all from them…letting THEM teach ME. And if you are with me on this (are you?) go and read a great eBook called “Guy Gets Girl” at guygetsgirl.com.
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Marriage, How to Make Yours Succeed…
For a long time, (before I got married) I was convinced that the biggest mistake anyone could ever make – was to get married. I mean seriously, do you know how LOW the marriage success rate in the United States is?
I did, and I figured that marriage was surely the best way to ruin a perfectly good relationship.
The state of marriages in this country is NOT encouraging. In America, 49% of all marriages end in divorce. Although, America is #12 on the list of the top 20 countries with the highest divorce stats. Still, the rate of failed marriages is p-r-e-t-t-y high!
In spite of this, I got older, fell in love – and married the man of my dreams, my soul mate. We were going be together forever, I couldn’t have been happier.
Eventually, I grew up, grew out of my naiveté – and got divorced.
Then, for a long time, I believed that the biggest mistake I had ever made, or would ever make – was marrying my ex-husband. I decided that it wasn’t my marriage itself that was disastrous; it was just a matter of marrying the RIGHT person, versus the WRONG one.
Therefore, I convinced myself that if I had just married someone else, anyone else – my marriage would have been a raving success. I of course, had done everything in my power to make the marriage work, I had made no catastrophic, unforgivable mistakes, and the ruin of our marriage could only be laid at my ex-husbands feet.
The divorce was all and only his fault…Too bad I still loved him and regretted the divorce as soon as it was final.
I have never been so wrong in my entire life. Not about loving him, but about getting the divorce.
It took quite a few years, several therapists, a lot of fighting, crying, and icy silences – but in the end we both obtained a great deal of hard-earned maturity and self-insight, and I learned that it wasn’t ALL his fault, and that we could have prevented our divorce.
My husband and I have since reconciled, and I’ve learned a great deal, about what it takes to have a good marriage, and How Not To Get Divorced.
And on this subject, before I move on, I read a great eBook about reconciliation (the art of making up!), its $39 and in my opinion worth 10 times its price. Go here and see how Mr. Jackson has helped over 55,000 people in 77 countries make up!
Anyway…
If only I had learned how to make a marriage work, before I’d gotten married, or while our marriage was falling apart.
I hope that as you’re reading this – you are willing to see that even if you think it’s too late for your marriage, it isn’t. Or, maybe you’re considering getting married, but you’re afraid that the marriage won’t succeed.
I’ve traveled down the long and lonely road of divorce, and I don’t want you to have to take the trip too. If you believe with even a minuscule fraction of your heart, that your marriage is worth saving, then all you have to do is follow my guidelines.
The Key Elements of a Healthy, Stable Marriage
Marriage is supposed to be a partnership; that means that both partners must give to – and receive from – the marriage equally. Both of you must have a commitment to each other, dedication to the family, and honesty with your selves and each other.
Maintaining a happy marriage is not always easy and there will be times when you may have to work very hard just to be in the same room with your spouse, without a deadly weapon – and the idea that you once loved that person with your whole heart and soul, will never even enter your mind.
Stress from our marriage can be hurtful to our children, our jobs, our friends, and family. If we are fighting with our spouse constantly, we will be tense, tired, depressed, angry, and generally just miserable – every second of every day. These types of feelings cause even more stress on the marriage.
It is beneficial for your mental and physical well being to feel secure and fulfilled in your marriage. Happiness matters a great deal to our self-esteem, which in turn affects everything else.
Prevention Is Better Than Representation (And Cheaper!)
These are some good ways that you can make the relationship easier, and better. If you are willing to work on your marriage, you will avoid the heartache of having to work out a divorce settlement.
Communicate
- It is imperative that you keep the lines of communication open. If you have created the trust of being able to share with your spouse, that is an excellent way to start your lives together. Sharing with each other means more than just talking AT each other, it means having real conversations, laughing together, and even sharing quiet times that are not awkward or icy silences.
Sharing will help both of you to balance the rest of your lives. When things go wrong, but even when everything is fine, your partner is usually the one you want to turn to for understanding and strength.
Listen
- Try very hard to listen carefully to what your spouse has to say, whether it is about mundane daily matters, or an issue they are having with the relationship. Giving your whole attention to what they are saying, with patience, and without judgment shows that you are devoted to them.
Admiration
- Let your spouse know that he or she matters to you, that you enjoy and appreciate their contribution to your life. One of the biggest problems in my marriage was that most of the time, even though deep down, we knew that we loved each other, neither of us ever showed the other that we liked each other. Take opportunities to show your spouse that you value them.
Create special memories
- Every couple has certain little secrets that only they share. For a contented marriage, you need those special memories to be happy ones. Do special things for your spouse and your relationship that will become times you can look back on years later, and smile. Even if it’s just putting a love note in his lunch for work, or sending flowers to her at her job.
Spend time alone together
- Couples, who have been together – happily – for a significant number of years, agree that one of the things crucial for keeping their marriage strong is going out on a “date” with their spouse on a regular basis. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy either, just time together away from the kids, your jobs, and the basic stresses of your lives. Spending time alone together helps you to remember the special feelings that made you fall in love with each other in the first place.
Treat each other with love, respect, and kindness.
- No matter how crappy your day was, or how annoyed you are that you were stuck in traffic, it is vital that you and your spouse always treat each other with consideration. Compassion, tenderness, and respect are vital in happy marriages. Trust me, taking your frustrations from a bad day out on your spouse, is NOT conducive to marital bliss.
Dedicate yourself to your marriage
- Marriage isn’t easy, and for yours to be mutually fulfilling and comfortable, you have to devote yourself to keeping it that way. This can be especially difficult during life’s rough patches, but it is important that you put your marriage first.
- If you and your spouse are committed to making your marriage a success, there is nothing that the two of you cannot accomplish. You have to make sure that the marriage is getting the time and attention it needs. Nothing – not houseplants, pets, kids, or marriages – thrives or grows if not nurtured.
Forgive and forget – the little things
- Always make an effort to get over the minor annoyances and irritations that happen in your marriage. Even huge mistakes are deserving of forgiveness if your marriage and your spouse are important enough to you.
During our reconciliation, my husband and I both realized that a major reason for our divorce, was that we both held had major grudges for minor issues, and that those little resentments built up and contributed to the big problems.
Research done to determine what couples feel is most important to a happy marriage indicates that most couples value these factors above all others.
Honesty – with each other, and with yourself
Openness – not keeping secrets from each other
Respect – for each other and yourself
Compassion – caring for each other and being supportive
Commitment – knowing that you are important to each other
Compromise – give and take have to be equal
Equality – sharing household and financial responsibilities
Laughter – being able to laugh with and at each other
Security – feeling like you are safe and loved
Another research study discovered the top 10 reasons for divorce, so if you work on preventing these problems, or at least know what to watch out for – you’ll have an unbeatable advantage.
- Infidelity – being cheated on, or doing the cheating
- Abandonment – emotional or physical
- Dishonesty – lying about anything, little or big things
- Abuse – physical, sexual, and emotional
- Addiction – substance, alcohol, or gambling
- Incompatibility – having no common interests, values, or beliefs
- Inflexibility – not being able to compromise or agree about major issues
- Lack of communication – not being able to share with each other
- Differences – in cultural, religious, parenting, or lifestyle beliefs and practices
- Financial – stress over bills or income, or the lack thereof
These issues may seem like excellent reasons to get divorced, and in many situations (IF YOU’RE BEING ABUSED, LEAVE NOW!) – Divorce is unfortunately the only answer.
However, if your love for each other is strong enough, and you are both willing to face your own faults, forgive each other for your faults and mistakes – and you are BOTH willing to work on making the marriage better, then you can.
Luckily for you, I’ve already learned these lessons, the hard way – and you can use my hard earned wisdom to learn how not to get divorced.
Good luck!
P.S. Making up is an art. It truly is. There are no black and white answers. But unlike other, tougher arts (like the art of making money!), it’s an art anyone can master with just a BIT of care, patience and understanding.
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Back in high school, an unlucky friend of mine had man boobs. He was a great kid, and an active one at that. He played high school football while I sat on the bench. We played basketball together. We even worked out.
Despite all the exercise, however, he still had that shapely chest, at the ripe old age of 16.
It was a running joke between our group of friends. Not really jokes, more like entertaining jabs of love. I mean really entertaining.
“Hey, happy birthday man, here’s a training bra.”
Or “You’re so lucky, buddy, Cameron Diaz would kill for a rack like yours.”
Oh, to be a heartless, teenage boy.
If this rings a bell, it’s probably because you’re in the same predicament. You can put an end to it, though. Here’s the plan you need to help you look a little less like Cam Diaz and a little more like Cam Newton.
Man boobs (also known as Gynecomastia) occurs in 50% of men at one point or another. That’s one breast for every man on Earth.
A number of factors can trigger the common condition. Most of these are not genetic. In many cases, it’s consumption that puts you at risk for this condition.
Possible Causes of Gynecomastia
- Excess weight: The added growth comes from fat being stored in the chest area.
- Hormonal imbalance: Caused by higher levels of estrogen and lower levels of testosterone.
- Medication: Some antibiotics, diuretics and prostate cancer therapies can cause an upswing in estrogen.
- Anabolic Steroids: Are you a bodybuilder?
- Massed-produced meats: An overproduction of estrogen can occur from consuming too many lambs, cows and chickens which were injected with growth hormones.
- Soya products: The verdict is still out on this. Some studies claim ingredients in soy products can drop testosterone while others say the exact opposite. But you can’t say I didn’t tell you.
This is the part where we don’t talk about paying a couple thousand dollars to have surgery done. It doesn’t always work, it hurts and it’s expensive. You can do plenty of better things with that money, like build that sweet potato garden you’ve always dreamed about (but never told anyone).
If you do your research (or just keep reading) you’ll find there are a host of other options.
The best of all those has to be The Superset. Working on the age-old mantra of “No pain, no gain,” there’s no arguing how effective this strategy can be.
The Superset is a two-pronged approach based around two equally productive principles.
- Boost testosterone levels
- Burn fat
Reel in your diet to boost testosterone
Besides not watching the Lifetime Channel, tweaking your daily intake in some important ways can really help in getting your testosterone levels where you need them to be.
Just make sure you only eat carbs and proteins one day a week, but always at different meals and never in the same two-day span unless it’s a harvest month. And eat plenty of wheatgrass. And remember to take naps.
Ok, that’s not true at all. Well, I stand by the naps.
You just have to watch yourself and be disciplined. If it takes a food log where you record your daily intake, do it. If you need to use shock therapy because you don’t have any discipline, do it. Your dog would enjoy it, I’m sure.
Your diet can get exactly where it needs to be if you follow these four steps.
- Lose weight slowly: If you aren’t in the right mindset, it could ruin everything. There are a million ways to lose weight fast. You could drastically drop the amount of calories. Or you could cut out the carbs or do Herculean amounts of cardio exercise. But here’s the gist: Starvation is not good for your testosterone level. Shoot to lose two pounds of fat each week.
- Eat a balanced diet: Approach your diet like a politician approaches a question. Be moderate with everything. Whether it’s low carbs or high proteins, nothing is as good as eating balanced. For example, here is a list of the problems you could face simply from eating too much protein.
- Weight gain
- Intestinal irritation
- Dehydration
- Seizures (if not enough water is consumed)
- Increase in liver enzymes
- Nutritional deficiencies
- Risk of heart disease
- Stick with healthy fats: Most men need to eat more healthy fats. That’s right; there are some fats which are beneficial for you (besides Albert). Basically, avoid trans fats and saturated fats like the plague. MonoUNsaturated and polyUNsaturated fats are the ones you want to find. Warning: Product label checking ahead, bring your trifocals. These are a handful ways to incorporate healthy fats.
- Cook with liquid plant oils (e.g. olive and canola)
- Switch from butter to soft-tub margarine (check labels for “zero trans fat”)
- Get your omega-3 fats each day (from salmon, tuna or walnuts)
- Replace red meat with fish or chicken
- Cut back on dairy products (cheese in particular has a lot of saturated fats)
- Lose the fake meats: As mentioned before, it’s yet to be determined if soy does damage to testosterone levels, but is that soy burger really good enough that you can’t stop eating it?
Once the diet is firmly in place, it is time to move on to phase two.
Sculpt your workouts, sculpt your body
Enter the supersets. When you have the reins on your diet, it is just a matter of putting in the sweat and tears to take it to where you want to be.
The goal of your workout is to gain lean muscle. The math is simple. Your body needs more calories to maintain muscle than it does fat. Once the lean-muscle ball is rolling, everything else will be easier.
Just think of it like this: Fat is only stored energy. Flappy, flubbery energy. So use it to your advantage, MacGyver (in case you were wondering, spell check does in fact recognize “MacGyver” as a word).
This workout plan is designed specifically to turn you into an efficient, fat-burning locomotive. The plan is divided over a three-day workout schedule. Workouts shouldn’t be done on back-to-back days.
Day 1
Dedicate the first day to doing small sets with more weight while targeting your chest and back. For future reference, a battalion’s worth of exercises and detailed instruction on how to do them can be found at Exrx.net. On day one, seventy five percent of your (non-abdominal) exercises should be made up of:
- Chest: Bench press, dips, free weights.
- Back: Rows (cable or dumbbells).
Day 2
On the second day, switch your focus to legs and shoulders, again in smaller sets with more weight. Try to max out your muscles. Make sure to include:
- Shoulders: Military press, behind neck press, front raises
- Legs: Lunges, squats, leg extensions, calf presses
Day 3
The last day targets the biceps and triceps.
- Triceps: Lying triceps extensions, close grip bench press, push downs
- Biceps: Curls, drag curls, underhand chin-ups
Looks simple, right? Actually, it looks downright normal. What breaks this regimen apart from the rest?
The Cardio
Personally, I used to begin and end every workout with a leisurely treadmill stroll along an imaginary beach or by hiking up a mountain slowly while watching ESPN. The truth is that’s less effective than buttering a bagel with a toothpick. You should do the exact opposite.
It’s called high intensity exercise. The best reasons to do cardio are to burn calories and get your metabolism in gear. Raise your heart rate. And the faster you work, the more you can do just that. High intensity exercises like the Leg Matrix and Squat Series will not only spark your heart rate and metabolism, but they will exercise your heart.
After re-inventing the (stationary bike) wheel, there is only one thing left to do. The finishing, and possibly most important, touch is the addition of supersets.
With supersets, you will turn your workout plan up a notch. One day a week (Day 1) you’ll substitute a superset in the place of your normal splits. The man boobs will disappear quicker than toilet paper rolls in a Mexican restaurant.
For best results, alternate between any two, or all, of these chest supersets. One set per week. TIP: Try to rest as little as possible between exercises.
- Workout A: Do push-ups and dips in five descending sets. Start at 50 and cry your way back down to 10.
- Workout B: For a period of twenty minutes, alternate between 10 reps of incline push-ups and dumbbell pullovers. Do as many sets as gravity will allow.
- Workout C: In sets of 15 reps, alternate between Hindu push-ups and dumbbell bench press. Do five rounds of each.
When trying to burn fat, the most important thing to keep in mind is calories. Are you burning more calories each day than you are taking in? If so, you are picking up speed on the fat-burning train.
You’ll finally get rid of those pesky man boobs.
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